Why Good Leaders Stop Making Everyone’s Bed for Them

I’m pretty sure I learned the most about motivating without micromanaging while raising our kids. When I wanted them to get something done—like making a bed—I’d show them how to do it, ask them to demonstrate they knew how, and then (this is the hardest part) I’d get out of the way.

I had to give up the precious idea that my way was the best or only way to do it. And dang if they didn’t come up with their own way to get the bed made. Even if it wasn’t quite better—or took three times as long—who cared? The bed was made, they owned the process, and I didn’t have to hover like a helicopter on a caffeine buzz.

Micromanagement stifles creativity and trust. The best leaders (parents) motivate others by setting clear expectations and then giving them the space to succeed (or to invent a whole new way to tuck in a sheet).

Here’s how to motivate without hovering:

• Clarify goals and timelines. Make sure everyone knows the outcome and the deadline.

• Provide autonomy. Let people decide how to get there.

• Check in. Offer support without taking over. Your quiet trust speaks louder than instructions ever could.

This week, take a look at where you can step back and let someone else lead. Trust me: life is too short to obsess over tucked sheets.